How To Reach Your Goals and Remove Your Blocks

We live in a society that tells us when we want something, we should let nothing and no one stand in our way, to go out and make our dreams come true. What happens when we are the ones standing in our own way? When we are creating our own blocked and slowed progress? The three things that we all face in life are the same three bricks that make up the walls that block the road to success and achievement. Fear, doubt, and resentment are the main causes of our inability to progress and achieve our goals. It is only through self examination that we may begin to remove these blocks in our paths and move ahead towards our reward.

Fear

Fear is the number one cause of failure, or inability to move forward. We may fear success or failure, fear what is unknown and unfamiliar. No matter the object of our fear, the one commonality is that fear is the product of unhealed wounds. In order to remove fear from ourselves, we must first stand in a place of observance. Look back at your life, beginning with your most recent memory of a time when you suffered from emotional or physical injury. Observe your past self and feel the emotions that were present during this time: what were you doing? What were your goals? What happened to cause you to feel this unpleasant emotion? Was there another person involved? As you observe this memory, reach out to your past self and extend the feeling of love, pure and true love, for yourself. Offer your past self a helping hand, a hug, and assist your past self in accomplishing the unmet goal. If this is a memory of abuse, verbal violence, or emotional manipulation extending, self love is of the utmost importance. Stay in the memory until you are filled with love and your past self is well and whole. Repeat this process until you have observed all memories of past hurts and injuries. The next step is forgiveness. Forgive any and all persons involved in the traumas that caused you harm, and most importantly forgive yourself. Self forgiveness is the ultimate act of love. Forgive yourself for participating in that bad relationship, for putting yourself in an unpleasant situation, forgive yourself for being a child and powerless to stop the violence against you. Forgive yourself and you heal the wounds and remove the fear.

Doubt

Trust is perhaps the most delicate state of being, the most vulnerable of all actions. When we doubt ourselves, this is a state of being that is without trust. Trust in yourself means you know, at your core level, that you are capable of moving forward in any situation without regret and without hesitation. When you doubt your ability to achieve success in your endeavors you are stopping yourself, your progress. Believe in yourself, in your abilities, and in your own strength. Do not look outside yourself for validation or instruction. Know it is already within you. Replace doubt with trust. The opinions of others do not matter. They will only serve to slow you or push you into something that may not be in your best interest. Trust yourself to make your own decisions, and have faith in yourself that all will be well and perfect. There may be some in your present or past that have held you back from your true potential. Disregard these people. Listen only to yourself and follow your instincts, your gut feelings, and trust it is the best path for you to follow. Surrender any negative emotions and opinions of yourself as these will not serve you in achieving your goals. Make a leap of faith and trust in the knowledge that you have made the best decision and taken the best action for you. After all, it is your goal that you are chasing, not anyone else's.

Resentment

As we grow from child to adult, we are often told "no," we are forbidden, and we may become hurt. As adults in the workplace, we may come under scrutiny or feel that we have been treated unfairly by our superiors or coworkers and harbor harsh feelings toward them. In our personal relationships, we may disagree with friends or our partners. We may experience suffering as a result of abuse or lack of consideration for our feelings. All of these may become resentments. Resentments are negative hidden feelings we hold against others, often for circumstances that did not turn out the way we wanted them. When we hold a resentment against someone, we are essentially denying our own selfishness in a situation. We are not actively forgiving ourselves for being wrong, for making a poor decision or breaking codes of conduct. Releasing ourselves from these grudges lifts a weight from us that prevents us from accepting our own role and our own actions. Acknowledgement of a resentment must first be achieved. It may be helpful to make a list of all the people we feel have harmed us, how they hurt us and our own participation in the situation. Once the list is made, put it away for a day. Return to it and read it aloud, hearing every misdeed and realizing that many of these wrongdoings were a result of our selfish behavior and poor decision making. Forgive yourself first. If you still hold a resentment then release it by sending it out to a being you consider more powerful than yourself, to God, Allah, the Universe, or Goddess. Release yourself of the weight of the grudge and be free.

Success

Removal of fear, doubt, and resentment will likely take time. Give yourself a break. Trust the process. Do not rush as you will likely overlook something important and all the work will once again be for naught. Search your past memories and stand in observance of your own behavior and give yourself love and support to release these negative states. By practicing these methods, you will be able to move fearlessly forward in a state of complete trust and without the weight of a grudge slowing you down or holding you back from your dreams.