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You & All Your Youness

'And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.'

By ED Published 6 years ago 3 min read
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You know those people you see who don’t fit into the societal norm of what beauty should look like, but you find yourself unable to look away? Their energy and essence are just so captivating. You wonder what their secret is.

Here it is:

*drumroll please*

They are simply living their truth.

Wearing what they want, loving themselves as they are, shining their light in the way that best serves them. They are not perfect, and they know this about themselves—but still, they are choosing to show up as themselves, unapologetically.

Most of us have spent our lives trying to please everyone around us, except for ourselves. You wear a certain outfit for that cute guy to pay attention to you or to finally notice you, you do something because you know it’s what your parents want you to do, although it won't make you truly happy, you don’t assert yourself and tell people what you actually want to do when you and your friends make plans. You don’t actually like kale, but everyone says it’s healthy so you shove it down your throat!

We live our lives in a way where we are simply just existing. Then we wonder why we aren't happy or why we don’t love ourselves.

Although we are not all the same, and we all have different stories of why we are the way we are, for the most part, we do this because over time we have suppressed what makes us, what makes us different, to conform to what we think is acceptable. In doing this, you have repressed your inner light and have given in to a life of simply just trying to be liked and to fit in. You get told to "be yourself" but it’s just not that easy. It isn’t easy to reprogram your brain to just stop giving a fuck. It can feel scary. We do this because we fear that we won’t be loved and that the people we love and want in our life will leave if we start living the way we want.

But let me let you in on a (not so secret) secret:

If these people really love you and support you in growing into who you want to be then they will stay. If they leave, it’s a blessing.

You don’t want people in your life who aren’t wishing you the best and supporting you in being yourself.

And it’s not necessarily easy; it means learning about yourself and doing some soul work!

Dig deep.

What would you wear if you weren’t worried about what other people would think? Who do you feel actually understands you and who you feel you can trust? What lights you up? Does doing HIIT workouts 5X a week really make you feel good or does a flow yoga practice a few times a week make you feel grounded and healthy? Stop making yourself small; instead, show up in a big way. You were born and are living here on this Earth which is pretty damn cool. Show up, laugh loudly, share your opinions with others, don’t be afraid to sing or dance or share your writing with other people. Stop wondering if you "look weird" when you're expressing yourself.

It's about owning who you are, speaking up for what's right. Have a dance party in your underwear, eat food that you want to eat and makes you feel good, treat yourself with kindness and love because you only have one chance to be here (that you know of) so why waste time trying to be everyone but yourself?

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