'Unfu*k Yourself'

We all want that dream house, perfect relationship and amazing career, however it doesn’t happen overnight and to some, maybe never. I want all those things too. We have a nice place, a farm to be exact. Is it my dream house? Not even close. I share a great relationship with my spouse, is it perfect? Hell no! We have our ups and downs like most everyone else. As for a career… I always wanted to be an author, publish something, be a New York Times Best Seller. Did it happen? Not a chance. Why am I telling you all this you ask? It’s because I am sure some of you are feeling what I have been feeling for a while. Stuck in life, worthless, useless and just existing, comfortable. Satisfied and sometimes unsatisfied with the way life turned out. Like my only soul purpose is to be a mom and a housewife. Of course I love having a purpose of teaching these tiny humans and keeping them safe amongst being depended on by a herd of farm animals, but I need more. I crave more. A bigger purpose.

Life is short. The only thing promised in life is death. I heard this again not long ago and it had stuck with me this time. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m nearing the age of 40 that the realization has sunk in or if I’m just getting tired of the same ol' same ol'. Maybe it’s a wake up call to do something, either way, this time I am. So in turn, you should live the best life you can while you have the time. Take those trips you’ve been longing to take, buy those shoes you’ve been stopping to stare at each time you pass, whatever it may be, of course all within reason.

Rediscover your life before it’s too late. I was always one to give up too easily and it seemed to be when what I was working for was so close within reach. I doubted myself and lacked confidence that I could never commit to anything fully. You will always have those self-doubt, negative thoughts in the back of your mind fighting against you. They will never leave, we all get them from time to time. You just have to learn to win against them. You are worthy. You are worth it. You can do it.

I’ve tried multiple times with different things and maybe some of you can relate. I was scared of rejection, what people would think, if I was good enough. Scared of failing. Again, it’s those negative thoughts telling us otherwise. It is normal to feel those things and to be scared of change. Most people are scared of the unknown.

No one knows for sure what the future will hold but one thing is for certain, if you don’t change the path you are currently on, this will be your life. Are you happy with your current life or do you want big changes? You may have to do some soul searching to find your destiny. What you were meant to do and be.

Start with a small change, one day at a time. Even the littlest amount of effort can hugely affect the outcome of your life. You know I just recently finished this amazing book called Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop and I must say it was quite an eye opener and I truly recommend you check it out. It opens up a new perspective of things and even focuses deeper into some of the topics I mentioned.

Wrapping up I just want to say believing in yourself is the first step and it certainly is a hard one. Try it sometime. You may just surprise yourself. I broke out of my comfort zone and I know you can to.