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Perhaps one of the most uncomfortable truths about life is that sometimes, you can do every little thing perfectly and still fail. It's terrible, but life is not fair. However, in the majority of peoples' cases, the reason that they are failing at their goals doesn't really have much to do with bad luck.
Rather, it deals with the sheer amount of toxic habits that they have. Though everyone has vices, the truth is that one too many bad habits—or even on particularly awful one—can destroy all the hard work you put into bettering your situation at life.
Did you ever wonder why things don't seem to work out for you? If you tend to have any of these habits, you really shouldn't be that surprised. Successful people just don't do these, simply because they are so damaging to everything from your finances to your emotions.
Allowing Toxic People Around You
Negativity is contagious, and so are toxic belief systems. That's why one of the absolutely worst toxic habits you can have is to keep toxic people around you.
Toxic people are those who criticize you, belittle you, lie to you, embarrass you, or otherwise take from you without giving back. These are the people who make a point of dragging you down rather than lifting you up. Most people can spot signs of a toxic person fairly quickly, but sometimes, you can find someone who gets progressively more toxic as days pass.
If you regularly find yourself coming up with excuses as to why you allow certain people in your life, chances are that you probably have a habit of keeping people around that shouldn't be anywhere near you. It may be time to break that habit before you hurt yourself.
Rationalizing Your Actions, Rather Than Working to Be Better
This is one of the most frequently spotted toxic habits in domestic violence situations, as well as situations in which a person just refuses to get a job. Rationalizing and justifying why things are the way they are isn't just another way of lying to yourself; it makes you look like a fool.
No one respects the person who blames the entire world for their problems. Everyone has problems, but it's up to you to make yourself a better person and fix things. That's the only way to get respect, and the only way to really survive as a happy, stable person.
Letting Negative Thoughts In
Oof, this one's a difficult one to overcome. However, few toxic habits are as damaging as having a pessimistic, negative personality. If you let people get you into a negative mindset, it will affect every single aspect of your life.
Negativity makes you anxious, which can make doing your job harder. You might even get let go from work due to your gloomy demeanor. The thing is, work is very likely going to be one of the least affected zones of your life if you keep this habit up.
Dealing with negativity will alienate you from your friends, possibly seep into your relationship with your partner, or may cause you to live out self-fulfilling prophecies of dying alone.
If you want to be successful, you're going to need to break free of that negativity. Even if it means that you will need the help of a professional to do so, it's an endeavor well worth it.
Being Judgmental of Others
There's a very distinct difference between being careful who you associate with, and being judgmental of others. When you're judgmental of others, you go out of your way to hurt people who are unlike you—even when they do not do anything to hurt you first.
Judgmental people are not happy people. They often are judgmental because they, themselves, have a problem that they don't want to address. Knowing how being judgy, or even worse, prejudiced, can hurt; it's also very hard to look at yourself in the mirror and genuinely like what you see when you have this toxic mentality.
This is one of those toxic habits that can also greatly affect your ability to succeed on a social and professional level. Most successful people abhor seeing people who are judgmental, and as such, will not want them in their circles.
Your social network will matter a ton when it comes to making the right connections or getting ahead in life. If you're judgmental or prejudiced, you will miss out. The same can be said if your friends are too judgmental. You never know who knows who!
Participating in Drama
Drama may be fun to watch on The Young and the Restless, but getting involved in the real life version is one of the most toxic habits you can have. All that drama does is make people hate you, and waste time, effort, and money. You do not need to put drama in drama club, even if it seems like you're expected to partake.
Believe it or not, the easiest way to break free from drama is to just excuse yourself from it when it happens—or better yet, avoid drama-prone people in your life. There's no need to drag yourself down in those kinds of arguments, especially when they don't accomplish anything.
Letting the Past Rule You
If there were any toxic habits that can destroy your life, it's this one. People who are chained to the past cannot evolve into a better form of themselves, and often will go so far as to alienate people who could help them have a better tomorrow.
The past may have been horrible (or great), but the thing about the past is that it's gone. What's going on now is different, because the only thing that remains constant in the world is change.
Though it may not always feel like it, letting the past rule your decision making and outlook on life is a choice that you make. It's time to let go of the past and focus on the now, don't you think?
Ignoring Your Needs for the Sake of Others
A very common television trope you may have already seen in your favorite show is the Martyr Without a Cause. This is a character who ends up putting themselves in serious danger for things that really aren't that dire—or really have nothing to do with them at all.
This exaggerated trope actually has its roots in one of the most toxic habits people have: sacrificing their needs for the benefit of others. Though it may seem valiant, the truth is that acting as a martyr by putting everyone else's needs before your own makes it impossible for you to really help them.
At best, this will be met with a brief thanks while you suffer in silence. At worst, your efforts will be ignored and everything you did will be for naught. Either way, it'll impede any chance you have at success, regardless of what you're trying to accomplish.
The moral of this story can be summed up in the old adage, "Never set yourself on fire to keep others warm."
Refusing to Admit You're Wrong
Have you ever met someone so stubborn that they refuse to admit when they are objectively wrong? It's infuriating, especially when you're trying to argue with them over something that could potentially benefit them.
It's human nature to want to double down on an opinion when confronted with an opposing thought. However, that's not necessarily the healthiest thing for you. In fact, it's one of the toxic habits that has started to cause serious strife in America's political world.
When you refuse to admit that you are wrong, you're alienating yourself from others and potentially refusing knowledge that could help you become a better person. Moreover, it's just not a good look.
People respect people who admit when they are wrong. It's okay to admit when you messed up.
The fact that this ranks so highly as one of the most toxic habits of unsuccessful people shouldn't be surprising to anyone. Entitled behavior is not only a very good way to end up an angry, bitter, and depressed person; it's a great way to ensure no one will want to be with you.
No matter what you are trying to do, acting like the world owes you something will make things worse. People who behave this way end up making people unwilling to help them, simply because they get so rude about it.
One of the hardest lessons in life is that the world owes you nothing, and that every little thing should be taken as a blessing rather than being for granted.
Just Waiting for Things to Work Out
Waiting around hoping that things fall in your lap may sound great, especially if it's coupled with the power of positive thinking. However, reality doesn't work that way. Things just don't "happen" if you wait around long enough for them to happen.
Toxic habits don't always have to cause anger or sadness. Lethargy is the worst success killer of all. If you want something, you're going to have to go after it yourself.