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To My 30-Year-Old Self

Lessons Never to Forget

By Kellion KPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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As we age, we expect that our wisdom will come from the lessons that lie ahead. Society has conditioned us to believe that the older we are, the wiser we are. We don't ever imagine that our younger selves could teach us lessons even 10 years later. Here, in my mid-20s, is where I think my most valuable lessons will come. So why not share what I have learned so far with my 30-year-old self?

  1. Permanence is a myth and an illusion we create for the sake of comfort. Disregard that myth and remember that change is a part of life. Change is inevitable and the only thing that you can rely on. It has always and will always be this way. You can be afraid of this change; but never allow yourself to be crippled by the fear of change. Whether it comes with tears or with a smile, embrace it.
  2. We tend to forget that no matter where life takes us, no matter what life throws in our faces, one thing is and will always remain true: every little thing is going to be alright. Your tears will dry. Your heart will mend. And for that problem that seems like it was handcrafted by the devil himself, you will find a solution. Because things can't always be all good, and they will never be all bad.
  3. You are who you are and certain things will always be a part of you. But that doesn't mean you cannot improve them. You do not always have to react to the people and things around you. You can simply observe. Take what is useful and let go of whatever is not. But if you must react, remember that positivity breeds positivity. A change in attitude goes a long way.
  4. People judge. You have judged people. People will judge you. This is human nature. Science says that our perceptions of people and situations are how we determine what is good and what is bad; this steers us through reality. But don't be so judgmental where your judgement and perceptions of people are unchanged. Our observations and perceptions are just that: observations and perceptions. They are not facts. Be open-minded and allow yourself to see people for who they are. Because a man is not what he wears. He is not his education. He is not his address. He is not his sexual orientation. He is not the complexion of his skin. But, he most certainly is what his character conveys him to be.
  5. There are plenty of people who make it their duty to hurt others. People can be duplicitous, selfish and hateful. And that is their burden to carry. But, never allow yourself to think that this is the character of everyone. Some people have kind, loving and giving hearts. And believe it or not, not everyone is out to get you; nor is everyone trying to hurt you. You can allow yourself to be vigilant of bad Samaritans, but also be open to accept and receive kindness. Allow yourself to be loved.
  6. The biggest and probably the best lesson of all comes from mommy. Remember, she would always say: “Love everybody.” Love your neighbors. Love those who hate you. Love those who do not deserve it. Love those who seem devoid of love. And you should love all these people, not for their sakes, but for yours. If it feels like it cannot be done, just try. Because, as simple as it may seem, the only thing that transcends all realities and circumstances is love.
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About the Creator

Kellion K

Lover of writing and expression. Lover of people, life, and living.

Stories are opportunities to travel through space and time. Storytelling is our superpower.

Follow me on Twitter: @callme_kelli

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