“ Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” - Oscar Wilde
There is a total of 7.6 billion people on this Earth, and every single one of them is unique: different colored hair, different colored eyes, different skin tones. Even identical twins have differing personalities. What gets me is how, no matter how many people have their own amazing qualities, they all seem to want to be someone different. These recent generations are almost being forced to be someone they aren't, just because others aren't comfortable, because of this fact I have noticed that not a lot of people are truly happy. Somebody wants to be just like that random person they see at work or school, and that random person wants to be someone else. It's an endless annoying cycle. I even find myself guilty of this. My hair is a frazzled mess, I am super awkward, and the only reason I am a writer is because my speaking skills could be a bit better. Yet I have amazing story ideas, I can dream up something and crochet something that looks exactly like my dream, I can play piano pretty well, even if I can't read sheet music, and I am a friend that people can count on. I want to be someone not as awkward as me, but others see my gifts and want to be like that. We are human, we are never going to be perfect, but we are us.
How to be me?
This is a difficult question and one that only you can answer. Finding yourself after what could be years of being someone else can be difficult. What do you like to do? Not what do you do that others approve, what do you like to do? I'm not saying that everything you do with friends is not you, I'm saying that if you do things with your friends, and your inner voice is telling you that you wish you were doing something else, then that isn't you. What do you wish you were doing now? Do you like camping? Do you like to sing? Do you like to run around in circles while saying nonsense words? It's all up to you. Personally, I love to crochet. I've been told that crocheting is for old ladies, and why would someone as young as I am be doing something like that? Trust me, rocking chairs are super fun, and if I could crochet while sitting on my front porch in a rocking chair I would, but I don't have a rocking chair on my front porch. I've also taken my love of crocheting and turned it into something that those same people who used to make fun of me are now asking me to make them things. All this because I didn't let them define me.
But what about my friends?
This is the difficult part of this. I've lost people that I thought were my friends because I wouldn't be just like them. I don't drink alcohol, I don't use bad language, a lot of times I just felt like sitting at home and reading a book instead of going fishing with a bunch of people who either ignored me or stared at me hoping that I would go out with them. I'm am here to say that it is worth it in the end. You will be happier. I have such a group of friends now that want me to be me. My best friend and I are polar opposites. She would rather be out hunting or working on her yard. She is not a fan of Science Fiction and doesn't read many books. Yet somehow we have found those few things that we do together. We will watch movies, play with her cats, or walk around stores aimlessly, with no thought about buying anything, just to walk. You will find those friends that fit you, that like to do the things that you actually like to do.
I can be me.
It'll be worth it in the end. You'll have to fight for it, but sometimes a good fight is all you need to be happy. Prove yourself. Follow your dreams. Be happy.