Stop Placing the Blame

When something goes wrong in your life, it is incredibly easy to blame other people for any role that they might have played in it. It can be frustrating and upsetting when things go badly or don’t work out the way that you wanted them to. By no means should that ever mean that you need to start pointing fingers and looking for someone to blame for the wrongs in your life.

This can be a slippery, dangerous decision that will ultimately lead to you never coming to peace with what has happened in your life. You are being untrue to yourself, and those around you. You must always remember to remain true to your true self. The truth is that we all have to make decisions in our lives, and sometimes, those decisions don’t work out well for us. This is simply the nature of being alive. Not everything in this life is going to work out for you exactly how you want it to. Not everything is going to work out so well it leaves you dancing circles around your house. But that doesn’t have to be your breaking point, and that doesn’t mean it’s time to start looking for people to blame for your misfortunes in your very own life. It’s time to stop taking the easy way out. It’s time to stop placing the blame on others. It’s time to come to peace with own your actions, and take responsibility for decisions that lead to actions that caused not the greatest reactions. It’s time you just understand that you can move forward.

It is so unbelievably easy to act like other people, TV shows, video games, etc. influence our actions, because a lot of the time they absolutely can do that; but in most cases, the fact of the matter is that we are all humans and are taught from a young age right and wrong. This is a slippery slope when you think about it because when we ultimately start making decisions based off of someone or something else, it seldom works out for us.

For instance, It is so easy to blame that guy that you’re dating for making you love him when he treats you like total garbage. Because he’s the one doing the offending action. At the same time, you are still the one choosing to be with him. At that point, you are still the one choosing to be with him every single day, avoiding the real issue at hand. Even though he doesn’t help out with rent or expects, in fact, you to handle everything in his life for him, it boils down to the fact that you are making the choice to continue to allow and permit these actions. This choice that you’re making isn’t to love that man, but you’re choosing loving him over yourself. So, you end up heartbroken and sad again because he does exactly what he has shown you he will do, time and time again. It’s honestly just better to realize that your very own choices led you there and let that give you perspective, and accept it for what it is. Blaming him will likely never change him, or make him take responsibility for his actions. But realizing your role in the situation and choosing not to allow yourself to stay caught up in that situation, that made you want to turn to pointing the finger, can change the outcome. You are more in control than you think you are. Even though it might not always feel like it, you are.

This same philosophy carries across so many aspects of a person's everyday life. Maybe you’re harboring some bad habits that you possibly picked up from of your parents, and now you want to blame them when those parts of you shine through. This is where you need to take a step back and remember you are the one in control her, not them. Your parents made those decisions, and most likely practice those same habits to this day. Those things can’t be undone now. Fact is, you are still making the decisions to follow their habits you don’t like, and that means that you are in control. You have the power to stop following those habits and make different decisions. Instead of blaming someone else for influencing your decision to do something that you are not necessarily proud of or like, make the decision to accept responsibility for your own actions, and simply stop allowing yourself to harbor habits you're not found of.

This is the first step to changing them, and it is without question the only way that you are ever going to free yourself from so easily placing the blame on others is to STOP doing it. Be more conscious of yourself, if you feel like you’re making a poor decision go with your gut, then stop yourself. You are responsible for your actions, no one else it. You deserve this for yourself, so stop placing the blame, and get to work.