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Rip the Band-Aid Off

Love yourself when nobody else does.

By Shawn GallantPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Sometimes you have to let go...

I never had an easy life. For the most part of my life, I have never been truly happy. I’ve always felt like the world was crushing me. When I was a child, my family used to take care of other children that came into our foster home. You would think that I would always have someone to play with and would feel like I was never alone or lonely. However, the exact opposite feelings came from this childhood. I was very much alone in my thoughts as I was never good at opening up.

I was a very lonely child, and I am still a very lonely person to be as candid as humanly possible. But, the worst part of it all was that I may have created this for myself, or it may not have been my doing at all. I’m still not too sure about that. I was never the kid with a lot of friends, I was often bullied. And it took me so long to let my pride down and accept that I’m just not a very likable person, as much as I would like to be. You see people in your life that seem to have it all... A million friends, birthday celebrations, friends buying cupcakes for their birthdays because they are loved so much.

However, I never had anyone outside of my family ever really celebrate my birthday. I’ve never been someone’s go-to for help or for secret talks. I’ve always been pushed to the side and misunderstood, if I could put it that way. You must know those charismatic individuals, right? Well, I am not one of those.

I’m going to tell you a few things if you have ever felt the way that I felt, or if you are similar to who I am. Just because you feel that nobody likes you doesn’t mean it’s true. Even if it is completely true, it’s important to like yourself. I’ve had to learn that nobody would ever have my back more then myself. Yes, I have a great family. However, sometimes I felt as though I still do not matter: sometimes I even feel as though if my family wasn’t linked to me biologically, they would never speak to me. Why? Because I have a strange feeling that everyone wishes I wouldn’t be in their lives.

I know this may not be true and I know other people feel this way, but I have always felt that way. I’m honestly surprised I’m still alive and writing about this as in my eyes, I’ve always been on the brink of giving up. But, as soon as I decided to rip the bandaid off and accept who I am, I have somehow found a way to live as I am and survive every single day that I have ever felt unloveable, which let me tell you, is everyday.

My best advice for anyone feeling this way is to accept it and find some sort of confidence within yourself to even tell yourself, “Those people that don’t like me for whatever reason are wrong, because they do not see the real me. They hurt me, the loving me or the good me.”

I know it’s hard, trust me. But even if you feel as though nobody loves you, you still deserve to love yourself.

XO

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