New Year - New Pressure?

For as long as I have been an adult I have hated..... okay maybe that's a harsh word..... disliked with a passion the whole new years eve saga!That one day of the year that everyone is expected to jump on the "new beginnings" bandwagon .... forecast exactly what they will get, be, change about their whole life for the year ahead..... just because the calendar says it's the 1st of January coming up.I can just about predict what will happen on the day I wake up let alone a 12 month forecast! Who woke up one day and said "I know let's put a ridiculous amount of pressure on ourselves by deciding right this moment what I am going to change and everything I am expecting from myself for the next 12 months" Post Christmas is a hugely stressful time for so many people, not everyone loves it, people struggle financially, emotionally, they miss people no longer here and whilst Christmas is a beautiful time of year for many it can still be equally emotionally battering at the same time. Yet whilst most people are getting their head back into that routine of "normality" that they had before December craziness hit, there are constant conversations of New year resolutions, people talking about how 2018 will be their year! how it will be a better, happier, healthier, more prosperous year .... apparently that time between Christmas and New year everyone turns into mystic Meg!I have no idea how January will be for me and mine, I won't be making any promises to myself to be anything more than the best I can be on that very day, there will be no year long resolutions or false hope for things that no one knows about or could predict. My only hope for the year ahead is that whatever it deals me I will deal with, and that I will appreciate every single day. And you know something ? That is just enough ! I am enough! and if some days that doesn't quite happen , I won't be battering myself with guilt over broken resolutions, Instead i'll accept that it's just life and i'm just human! Time to take the pressure off ourselves and just live maybe?

I also honestly think that by putting this huge pressure on ourselves to "change" we are holding ourselves by keeping a focus on what went wrong. And yet equally we can't just leave 2017 behind, things happened, we loved, we lost, we made mistakes, we got things right, we made awesome memories and also sad ones. But isn't that just okay ? the whole resolution of change for the forthcoming year almost suggests that we are stamping our feet saying no more of that this year ! but there could be more loss, sadness, struggles alongside those fantastic happy times. We can't control every part of our life, it's in the hands of whatever you believe but ultimately we can only influence a certain amount of it. I believe that accepting that not everything is ours to control is a huge step towards living fully. What would happen if we just accepted that stuff happens and life is about learning to live alongside it and face it as it happens. NOT a year in advance with the weight of so much pressure on our shoulders, and maybe that will make the brighter days shine brighter!So from me ..... Happy Sunday ( or whatever day you are reading this ! ) I hope that today is a wonderful bright day!