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Dealing with Two-Faced People

By SamPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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A quote by Marilyn Monroe.

So today, I'm feeling horrible, I'm sick!! My head is throbbing, like someone is using a jack hammer in there, my sinuses are blocked beyond belief—but I'm still writing because I made a commitment to myself. Today's story was inspired by something that I saw on Facebook.

I think everyone in their life has come across a two-faced person and what I have learned is that there is no easy way to deal with these kinds of people. Sinking to their level only makes you look petty and that isn't a good look for anyone.

Ever since I was young, my parents always taught me to treat others the way I would want to be treated and that was the mantra that I lived by. But as I got older, it got harder and harder to be nice to people who only showed me what I wanted to see and said what they knew I wanted to hear, only to then turn around and say and do mean things as soon as things stopped going their way.

I always believed that if I put out positive vibes and good energy, that I would attract that back but I found myself on many an occasion wondering, "Why me?" Why are you being so mean to me when I have done nothing to you? I have not had a single ill thought towards you yet you seem to hate me?

It took a long time for me to realise that constantly over thinking people’s words and actions was not doing any harm to them, but it was to me.

I was missing out on spending quality time with friends and family and enjoying the memories that were being made.

So I made the decision then and there that no matter what anyone said or did towards me I would only be positive and happy back. I would only look for the positives in every situation and always have a optimistic outlook.

No sooner had I implemented that choice, I saw the change. I was smiling and laughing more and so were the people around me. I was having meaningful conversations and actually enjoying meeting new people (something that I would have dreaded in the past).

As you know from my previous post, music is important part of my life and I honestly believe that there are so many moments, thoughts and feelings that I can pinpoint to one or more particular songs.

The song that I believe really brings this message home is “Kill Em with Kindness” by Selena Gomez.

Not only is it a great song with a catchy beat it promotes a brilliant message. With lyrics like:

“We're running out of time, chasing the lies,”

and

“And no war in anger, was ever won.”

I think it really brings home the ideology that my parents taught me and what I chose to believe.

So my advice for dealing with two faced people—brush them off!! I have learnt that most of the time the people being mean to you, are usually jealous about what you have or simply because they seem to believe that you are better than them.

Trying to compete with someone who has that mentality leads to a downward spiral—you can't win with them, they will always find a way to one up you or twist your words around and use them against you—simply because they can't help it anymore.

So with that will leave with the words of wisdom that my mum says to me whenever I tell her that someone is being mean and two faced to me, she always tells me, "just ignore them, they can't help but act the way they do—they're just jealous of you.”

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