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Life Gets Worse When It's at Its Best

Great things are happening around me, so why do I feel this way?

By Vala RogersPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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Some say nothing is worse than the death of a loved one, or the death of a relationship. Either is an almost unbearable loss of something, and someone that you cared a lot for. Memories are all that's left and they can be triggered by a photograph, a piece of art, a taste, or a scent. It's easy to understand why loss is so painful. Others say fear and abuse are the most painful. To live in a state of fear or hostility, there are so many horrible things, and a bittersweet realization is, it can always get better, and it can always get worse.

Just in the way that there is an infinite set of numbers between one and zero, infinitely larger and smaller, things can always get better, and things can always get worse. The hardest part of this realization, though, is why do we feel empty when our goals are achieved and life is running smooth? Why does bliss sometimes cause pain? Is it a chemical imbalance in our brain? Maybe something in the water? There will always be someone better off than you, and also someone worse.

We bear this sense of guilt for being unhappy when nothing is seemingly wrong, and sometimes achieving our goals feels worse than failure. The minimalist lifestyle has been growing in popularity, as simplifying our life may aid in happiness. What would your life be if you only did the things you loved? If you only surrounded yourself with those you cared about? If you only possessed things you needed or loved?

The truth is that a high percentage of millionaires claim that they were just as happy, if not happier, before they achieved wealth. It makes sense I suppose. When you've achieved everything you've wanted, where is your purpose? Is the need for a purpose damaging our mental health? These are questions I continue to ask myself, answers we may never truly know, but try to find within ourselves.

When everything you’ve ever wanted is achieved, where do you go from there? What are we if we’re not growing? Will you enjoy the moment or waste it away like you did during the time before? Most people hate their job and many hate their boss, so do what makes you happy. And enjoy the present.

Furthermore, are you setting out goals for yourself that will make you unhappy? Are you studying in a field you hate? Are you focused on the pay of a job over how it makes you feel? The truth is you will spend a lot of your time working—in most people's lives anyways. If you work a job that you hate, how can you be happy? If going to work is the last thing you want to do, and the idea of leaving is your first thought while walking through the door, it is not the job for you.

So how do you find out if a job is for you? Let’s be honest here, work can be hard, every job has its perks and downfalls. But what do you value in life? And what are you good at? How much are your monthly expenses? How much does money mean to you? In my experience, I chose a high stress job, that doesn’t pay a whole lot to start, but I’ll be doing something that I find meaningful and therefore grow as a person.

The key to happiness is not to exercise more, or to meditate, or read, it's to be true to yourself and to know:

It will get worse, but it will also get better.

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About the Creator

Vala Rogers

I am 22, a writer, an animal lover, and a rehab facilitator for people with brain injuries. I'm vegan and aim to do whatever I can to make the world a better place, follow me on instagram @valarogers and on tumblr humanityhippies.tumblr.com

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