When I was in high school a decade ago, I remember hearing part of a quote someone had written decades before that that said "If you think you're beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, then you don't-". I wish I knew who wrote that quote so I could give them a big hug to thank them for what they have done by saying those words. I not only heard them but I lived by them whenever the going got tough. I stood my ground and dug my heels in, not giving up, not giving myself the chance to curl into fetal position and allow the world to swallow me whole.
I have been hurt. Betrayed. Screwed over more times than I care to revisit. I have been fired and I have been forced to let go of something or someone I never imagined leaving behind. But I was also reminded each time, during every situation, that I was not beaten because life has been known to hit harder than anything or anyone in human history. As Rocky Balboa once said, "It ain't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward- that's how winning is done."
Shit happens in life and most of the time, you can't control what happens, but to consider yourself beaten is the beginning of the end. I've been there, more times than I care to admit but each time I told myself, "I will get through this, one way or another." I always did, and you will too. There is a way around everything when you stop and think, whether it's being single for the first time in years, to losing your job, or being up to your neck in bills. There are always two real options in such situations:
1) You get up, dust yourself off, adjust the tape on your hands and get back in the ring. You keep getting hit but you hit back harder and harder until finally, you show life you're not just a winner but a champion.
2) Pull the covers over your head and give up.
Now I don't know about you but the second option, isn't much of an option, you know? It just isn't. Frankly, to get out of where you are right now, to stand up a little taller and to feel like that light at the end of the tunnel is within a few inches than a few hundred feet is better than sitting in a dark room, curled in a ball, crying and going on "Oh, woe to me!".
I recently had something happen to me that shook my foundation though not as much as most tough situations in life, however, one of the first thoughts in my head, after it was all said and done, was that I will be fine, I am stronger than this, and once again, I can weather the storm. It sucks, to be in the position that I'm in right now, but to be stuck somewhere I really didn't want to be in the first place is, in hindsight, a shittier option. Now, I have the freedom to set myself up in a better life, to do things differently and to see what life will throw at me, good, bad, or indifferent.
Staying positive and not believing you're beaten is the foundation for a happier more fulfilling life, and honestly, I'd do it again if it means I was that much closer to my happiness.