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How to Deal with Rejection

Have you been rejected by someone you like, your friend, or even your family? Read my advice on what to do.

It is horrible to be rejected and I know that everyone has been rejected at some point in there life. It is apart of every day life and unfortunately, people still don't know how to deal with rejection and it hurts them for a long period of time. If you are one of those people who are struggling, then let me help. Here are my top tips on how to deal with rejection.

1. The first thing to do is to accept it.

There is no point arguing against rejection. If someone chooses to walk out of your life, if a job doesn't want you to work for them, or someone doesn't want to publish your work, while it is tough, you have to accept their choice. Even if it is the wrong choice. You can't always be a winner first time.

2. Never give up!

Just because you have been rejected, it doesn't mean you are always going to be rejected. Many people are rejected multiple times before they are successful and if it comes to being rejected in a relationship then just know that it probably wasn't meant to be and that someone else is going to come into your life that is going to be much better and treat you right! Rejection comes in many different ways and you just have to not give up and know that it doesn't mean you are a bad person or a bad artist. Stay positive! 

3. Keep trying!

The best thing to do when you are knocked down is to get back up even stronger and continue to fight for what you believe in. This links back to the never give up point. You have to keep going no matter what and prove to those that rejected you that it isn't going to bring you down.

4. Stay positive.

Keep smiling! There is nothing better after rejection than smiling. Just shrug it off and keep on moving forward.

5. Look at what went wrong.

Sometimes it is good to look at what went wrong. Where perhaps could you improve your work or what could you do next time to do better? It is okay to ask the person for feedback. Ask them what went well and what could have been done better. There is no harm in that and most people will give you that feedback. Remember not to dwell on it too much though otherwise you won't ever be able to move forward.

6. It is okay to feel upset for a little bit.

While we don't want to dwell on the problem too much, it is okay to have some time and be upset. Of course you are going to be and it would be unrealistic for anyone to just not care about it. You're going to be sore for a couple of days. It is normal and everyone goes through it. After a couple of days, you will probably find that you feel better.

7. Talk to family or close friends.

It helps to lean on others for support. They will give you the best advice and help you ease back into feeling better. These people can give you that moral confidence boosts when you really need it. One thing I wouldn't do though is post about it on social media. The internet doesn't forget anything and if you are potentially going for a new job, employers can always check on these things so be very careful what you post and what you say. 

8. Do not take the rejection personally.

Remember they can't reject you as a person because they don't know you. In a job it could be that someone else has more experience than you or that they have more qualifications that fit the description. Or perhaps the guy you want to date said no, that doesn't mean that you are horrible or ugly, it just means that he might not want to date at that moment in time. You have to remember it is not a personal attack. 

9. Go out and do something!

Go to the movies, hang out with friends, go shopping, or even go to the gym. Take your mind off it for a while and I can assure you that you will feel better. 

10. Use it as a motive to do better.

Use all of the advice, feedback, and even the rejection itself as a motive to improve yourself! At the end of the day, everything happens for a reason and you never know what is around the corner. It might have been a good thing that you were rejected for one job, because an even better job might be just around the corner, which is the same with everything in life!

Just stay positive and don't take it personally! 

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