Do you ever find yourself lacking motivation?
Maybe the problem is your incentives. Some life paths need certain things, think medicine or law, but essentially the rest of us feel we can 'get by,' and this is the first thing to fix if we want to feel more motivated. We need things to aim for and sometimes they seem just out of grasp.
For those of you like me, there are goals you have and things that you are aiming to achieve, but these are things which do not have clear steps... things where you can not keep aiming for the next achievable step. For me, I would love to become a published writer, and so I set myself deadlines for pieces of writing I want to complete. While this works, as I am setting these goals for myself, and they are ultimately unimportant, it takes a lot of self-discipline and motivation. And there is the problem. While I am very good at sticking to deadlines and organising a work schedule for myself, there is no real reward for this. This is in contrast to other life paths, which may offer logical and important steps, which are achievable within reasonable time frames. What I mean by this, is if you want to pursue a career in nursing, there are steps you take in your educational path, and these follow logically where there is always something next to aim for. Equally, if you are dedicating your life to sport, there are competitions and training goals there for you all the time. That's not to say that these people do not also face crises of motivation at times, but it does mean that they have a more logical path to follow that is more consistently scattered with progressive steps.
So the trick here is to create important steps for yourself to work towards. Perhaps make a list. If you're really struggling, start the list with really easy things. Make goals that you know you can easily achieve fairly quickly. If your only goals are long-term big ones, then it stands to reason that you will find them intimidating. This is why it is so important to work towards things in stages to ensure you stay motivated and continue to work towards what you eventually want to end up with. Manageable chunks and structured aims create a particular clarity that is impossible to achieve if you wing it towards a goal.
If your goal is for a particular lifestyle and not a particular career, again this could be a reason why you are struggling. In this case, you need to find a hobby or something different to become the central section of your life. Without anything to focus on at all, it will be almost impossible for you to find the motivation to do things worth doing. Equally, setting these too high or being too idealistic about what you can achieve will likely prompt you to give up quickly and therefore leave you feeling worse.
Making a plan for steps to take towards your goal is vital, but can often be challenging. If this is something that you find difficult, it may be best to seek guidance from a friend of even a professional in doing this. Just as where you ultimately end up, planning each step to some extent is vital to your success. But that's not to say that your plan has to remain rigid. There are times you may feel the need to change your plans or your goals to fit to yourself as you adapt or your ideas change. This is natural and healthy as long as you maintain momentum towards something you want to achieve.
Deciding when to push for something and when to try something else can be incredibly difficult. The best thing to do in this situation is really evaluate whether what you think you want is worth the effort. However in doing this it is also important to consider what other choices you have. For example, if you decide that you no longer want to pursue your chosen career, before you quit because that's what you feel you need to do, remember to think about what you can do next before you walk away from the opportunities you had already opened up.