Comparison Kills

Understanding Why We Compare Ourselves To Others and Breaking Out Of It

We often compare ourselves to other people, whether it's what they have, where they are in this stage of their life, or what they are doing. Social media is one of the most common ways for us to compare our lives to others'. We get to have a sneak peek and a snippet of peoples' lives. You see that one of your coworkers got that promotion that you were hoping for. While scrolling you see that house you were hoping for is sold; or, that one of your closest friends got a new car while you're struggling to keep yours. Maybe it is a group of your peers who are graduating and you're still trying to figure out which degree to pursue. The truth of the matter is, we have no idea how those people got what they have. We don't know what it took to get where they are now. Comparing yourself to someone else will always leave you unhappy because someone will always have more than you or always be further than you are. It is my belief when God placed us on this Earth we were beautifully and wonderfully made. Each one of us has a gift.  We become so aware of other people's gifts that we forget our own. Galatians 6:4-6 states, “But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he has rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For every man shall bear his own burden. Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teach in all good things.” This means don’t compare yourself to others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. You must accept the responsibilities that are yours. I believe whoever is being taught God’s word should share the good things they have with the one who is teaching them.

Figure out the root of why you continuously compare your self to others. A lot of times it is because we do not feel good or worthy about ourselves.

Know in your heart that you have so much in you that is going to take you exactly where you are supposed to be. Take a break from social media if you need to.

Accept where you are right now in your journey. Not everyone is meant to be at the same stage in their life. Stay in your own journey and enjoy the ride. Love who you are and accept what has happened in the past. Your past may be filled with a lot of hurt, pain, anxiety, frustration, mistakes, and fear; but, allow those things to be the catalyst to get you where you are supposed to be. Embrace who you are and look at how far you've come. You are a lot wiser and stronger than you were a couple years ago. Be proud of the person you have become. If you are not happy about where you are today, know that tomorrow is a fresh new day and something to look forward to. Where you are today says nothing about where you will be a couple years from now. It doesn't matter where you are right now, all that matters is determination, courage, mindset, and attitude about where you are going. Be grateful for where you are. Some have it so much worse than you. Find the beauty in today. See the tangible and nontangible things you were blessed with. The truth of the matter is no one on this earth is perfect. No matter what others have or how much they have at the end of the day they are just as human as you are. They make mistakes just like you. Stay in your own story learn from your mistakes and know that you have so much to be happy for things seen and unseen.

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Santayshia Wilson
Santayshia Wilson

Hello my name is Santayshia and writing has always been a passion of mine. What draws me to writing is, the idea that I can use my words to impact someone's life in a positive way, which means the world to me. I hope you enjoy!

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